Say What? Tips for Public Speaking

Darlene GonzalezIn the spotlight today is Darlene Victoria Gonzalez, host and producer of “A Virtual Perception” podcast.

I love what I do. I am a public speaker, a podcast host to be exact. A podcast is much like a radio show, but it is accessed online.   As a podcast host I share my insights on a variety of topics and I also talk to people almost every single day; most of whom are strangers to me, and people I have never had a conversation with prior to them being on my podcast.

So, how surprised would you be if I told you that I was once a shy individual? I am not simply talking shy, I am talking super shy. I was once someone who cringed at the thought of getting up in front of a roomful of strangers and talking. A childhood friend’s father nicknamed me “Mousey” because I was always so quiet. And, in 1991 I was voted “Most Shyest” in my Middle School yearbook.

So, how did I go from being “Most Shyest” to someone who loves talking to complete strangers and the host of several successful podcasts? The secrets are simple really.

  1. I stopped worrying about what people thought about me; this enabled me take a real interest in what people were saying to me instead.
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  3. I have also learned to relax.
  4. Still to this day I get a bit anxious when it comes time to do a podcast interview. So, before I start an interview, I take a few moments to do some deep breathing exercises.

  5. I clear my mind and simply relax.
  6. This way, when I start the interview I am in a calm, relaxed state and can totally focus on what my guest is saying.

  7. The last thing that has helped me with my shyness and becoming a better public speaker is to simply be prepared.
  8. A lot of the times I will write out what I would like to say or ask prior to an interview. Most of the time I deviate from my original plan,  but having that piece of paper to fall back on helps me if I start to feel anxious or shy.

So, the next time you find yourself faced with a public speaking engagement of any sort (even if it is creating your very own podcast or video production), remember these three things: flip the situation so it is more about your audience and less about you, relax and be prepared. You’ll do great!

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Darlene Victoria Gonzalez is the host and producer of A Virtual Perception podcast, a podcast for Virtual Assistants. She is also a multimedia specialist helping small business owners with their audio and video production needs. Visit her website and blog at: for more information and multimedia tips.

2 thoughts on “Say What? Tips for Public Speaking

  1. Leah Oviedo

    Thanks for the advice. I really like your first point. A while ago I read about why we shouldn’t worry about whether or not people are judging you because of one simple thing. People are not that interested in you. They are busy thinking about their own interests.

    When I meet a new person I don’t sit there and pick them apart, so why assume that they are doing that to me?

  2. darlenevictoria

    Hi Leah,

    You are welcome! It really is so true. Another point is that the other person may very well be all worried about what you are thinking about them. Honest interest and good conversation really goes a long way :)

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